You're Worth It and Worthy
I can't stop thinking about this, and when I can't stop thinking about something, it usually is my soul stirring me to write about it. Worthiness.
Dating is tricky, it's uncomfortable, and it's sticky. In a world filled with a mentality that seems to be "next, better, best." It's easy to get caught up in the chaos, to fill your head with non truths, and believe them as true. "Maybe, I'm too much, Maybe I talk too much, Maybe I am too independent, Maybe I'm not good enough...," or whatever it is that your inner voice triggers.
You are worthy. I want you to know that, yes you. Every ounce of you is worthy, a treasure, and should be respected.
I know this, because I was created, just like you as something beautiful, and Jesus died for me, because of this, because he believes we are worth it.
I'm not writing this to be an anthem for single women, to raise up your fists and shame the boys who did you wrong. Rather the exact opposite, a reminder to wait, to respect yourself enough to wait for a man who treats you well, who values you, and reminds you of your worthiness. He won't be perfect (remember you aren't either), and he will not be some knight in shining armor.
I used to have a long laundry list of what I was looking for, and I've dwindled it down, not out of diminished hope, but out of importance.
Wait for a man. Stop wasting your time, heart, and emotions on boys. Respect yourself enough to wait, to wait for a man that respects you.
I had breakfast with a friend recently, and I loved what she said in regards to relationships, she referenced waiting for a man "who's done the work or is doing the work."
In your period of "waiting," do the work. Rather than sulking in loneliness, mindlessly scrolling through Instagram or Facebook of flashing announcements of friends engaged, or sitting around a room discussing what's wrong with the guys you've gone on dates with, do the soul work.
I believe in a big God who taught me that I am worthy, who loves me, and shows me I'm worth it every day. It's time we remind ourselves of that, and live like that.
Respect and love yourself enough to wait, not in an arrogant, 'I'm waiting for the perfect man' way, but in a way that you value and respect yourself enough to not accept the status quo.
"You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness." -Brene Brown
"Can I say something to you young ladies? I'm trying to pick my words carefully here. Your husband whoever he is, single ladies, will have an unbelievable amount of influence over your sons and daughters in regards to spiritual things. If you want your children to love Jesus deeply, hold out for a man that is Godly. And let me tell you this: I am well aware that Godly men are rare. Lots of neat Christian boys, not a lot of Godly men. And we're working our tails off for you to try to develop some into that. But don't settle, because it's better you be lonely now than you be married and lonely later. Are you tracking with me? It is better that you be lonely now than for you to get married to a man that will teach your kids everything the way but Jesus." -Matt Chandler